One day at a time I am so apologetic for your loss sweetheart, Hi Holly That makes me mad in itself that I cant compare this loss to others for so many different aspects. It has been over 2 years and I still miss him so. I cannot fathom spending the rest of my days balanced on this double edged sword! After four years later I am now dealing with unresolved grief as well. Take Care and Thank You, Your email address will not be published. He was so above pettiness and saw things though a better side of life. i found myself googling for months trying to understand the event how it happened and could i have avoided it. For now, thats all were able to do. he asked me in a parting note not to forget him, or my other brother who died in 2018 or my parents who went before. And the griever may find themselves thinking, this isnt any easier. Hi- I just read your storyits almost been 2 years since my husband died. I still do Mindfullness as a sleeping aid when needed. He had the same slightly crooked nose, mocha skin, 5'9" body and Spartan-warrior haircut. Well in February 2017 the puppies went to their new homes. She made it 7days. we lost most of our family. One year I cried n cried. I know I dont want to live like this for any length of time anymore. I constantly think of him and cry because our 55 years together made us so close and we even got to think alike after all that time. Im at month 16 and grieving seems to be taking over my life. I am grateful. Mike was my power house. Those, who simply tell you to move on have either not lost someone of such great meaning or perhaps, are incapable of such a relationship or are repressing their own losses. The one I turned too for deep discussions, uplifting when I was upset over something and just encouragement when needed. His sister, my Mum died when I was 13 & lived in Ireland (he lived in the UK), our life turned inside out, no real help, Father ignored us, out looking for another & drinking heavily. Even though we had hospice care, there was so much confusion about what was happening to her and if she was getting the right treatment; there was so much decision-making which is fatiguing; the living room where she slept for the last three months became cluttered with medical supplies and bottles of pills. You have left me a huge hole that no-one else can fill in my heart. I watched him wither away. I remarried in 2012 after dating for 5 years my second husband died 6 weeks later of heart attack on his way to work at the fire department. I lost my younger sister to sepsis January this year. I also listened to grief counselors online. My life has forever been changed I have good days and mostly sad I lost both my boys 2 years ago mike 38 april 20,2016 and chris 39 september 20, 2016, I cant get over the pain my heart is hurting so much.I just want tobe with them I am having flashbacks like it happened yesterday..shock and reality has set in. Or how about my whole immediate family thats destroyed. I am short tempered and any direct insult toward me sets me off. When a parent dies, guilt can become a burden because of past arguments you now regret or maybe because you think you didn't do enough to help them. I too had the months of legal stuff and find things he used to do and now my responsibility rather hard. I lost 2 strong important women in my family at the end of 2018. Now I was worried am I on the rebound am I needing to be with anyone . He was suddenly diagnosed and died after his first chemo. Other days I just wonder why bother. Many blessings for all of you. I am now 85 and pretty healthy other than an old body. God bless you all. I lived off cake, pie, candy & other sweets. He was the most funny outgoing person in my life and I miss everything about him. I need one that tells me when we will be together again. I realize that he still loves me and is looking out for me. The first 2 years every single memory of every single moment of happiness we had were the worst part. We were together for 27yrs married 19 yrs. Hi, I,m in the second year of my husbands death. The loss of a special animal companion can leave devastating heartache and most people will suffer in silence out of fear of not being taken seriously just because the loss was not a human loss. For now, I think we should go with the flow and if we feel sad and listless, it is completely natural and nothing to be ashamed of, we are grieving, we are mourning, we are entitled to a self pity party, our landscape has completely changed, My sister died 3 years ago at age 47. I feel that while I will always miss my best friend and suffer great loss and sadness over her death, this home is a tomb of artifacts for me. My family is great but they are grieving also. Im not saying there is no life after death but I am saying that if there is, that is his journey. The pain of losing you is immeasurable. Ive lost countless close family, but the loss of my husband (best friend, greatest champion, confidante, teacher, counselor in life, one in a million love), is simply unbearable. I never get a reply. Now Im on my second year this is August 2018. I feel horrible. It was a very shocking and unexpected episode. So sad. I did not understand that we had such a deeper connection than others may have. I am the same. Weve held 2 Motown and Northern Soul Charity Nights in his memory to raise money for Brain Tumour Research and Bloodwise (blood cancer charity. with friends like that, who needs enemies. creating an adult coloring book with his images that I will share with the world soon. There is no words that will make sense of our loss. Most are still married and although sympathetic really have no clue. I look forward to seeing him again and I know he would want me to go on and prove that our live was SO GREAT that I continue on in his memory. My friends are the best and try to understand, but until you go through it, you can never truly understand the depth of this kind of loss. It helps me to know that although I feel alone, I am not alone in my emotions. Florida Statutes require you to submit the original Will to the clerk of the court within 10 days of the person passing, while Florida Statute says this, no one holds you to this rule for obvious reasons. But they didnt get chance to sell it before dad just suddenly fell and passed away. I can say there are days that are a bit better than others. Please do not do that. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. Maybe I am just waking up to the reality that suffering is unavoidable and that pretending away death does a disservice to everyone including myself as it makes me bitter and more resentful. Even in the final week she thought of the future. I am so sorry that we are all here. "Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow" - Unknown. I thought that after two years it wouldnt be so hard. It is now over a year, I have dear friends, do many things like tennis and bridge, but cooking, eating and sleeping alone is torture. I hope you find what works for you, what helps get you through, what makes it bearable to be alive. The first year was so very painful that I couldnt even bare having the dog around that he loved so much, that I gave him away. 14 months ago we were enjoying lunch together at home as we had for years. The first year after her passing was very painful, yet it was what some people called the numbing year. Speaking t I someone, helps because death can be trmatic, Its 3.43am another sleepless night and reading through everyones stories trying to grasp some sense of belonging knowing others understand my pain. why 5 months later, Im still stunned and grieving! I took care of him during his last two years . Isolated judged alone. I just want to be happy again here in Wichita ks. The last year and a half was the hardest as she began to lose the fight. She was 96. I lost my husband 2 years ago suddenly and left behind with 2 young children. I cant function with this . I know the biggest star in the sky that is shining the most is you. The song comes five months after the artist's mother, Suzanne Olmstead, passed away in November 2021. Maybe because I was his caretaker, maybe because I was more close to him than my mother (a little). I do hope this helps someone or anyone who is going through a really hard time. I lost my wife as well, my best friend o 32 years. im old hahahaha We were together for 48 years, did everything together, and lived for each other. , I feel just as you do why leave me here my mother was my best friend my ladybug my diva I wake up everyday in so much pain it physically hurts Im scared of everything Im all alone it hurts like shit I cant even begin to explain. People tell me i have to move on. My situation a little different. The 1 year anniversary of his death is in a couple days. Year number 1 I was numb. I was hyper vigilant about every little thing; trying to hold on tight and control everything to keep from going under. I was daddys girl always was. " People often say that time heals all wounds. My brain is no longer frantic to fix it, as it was during the entirety of the first year. She was trying she (rehabs counseling etc.) This happen to me. Im in my 16 month. I wish I could believe it is going to be ok but I dont feel that way. I just want to hold my son, tell him I love him, see his beautiful smile not just one more day but forever. I get it! My best friend's mother had passed away. My boyfriend of many years died of congestive heart failure and I cry because of his suffering. I feel like I want to lay in bed all day and would be perfectly content doing just that. Happiness will come but the saddness is always there.. but you learn to smile again. Also her name was Holly and now with Christmas coming. talk about your feelings with out your child hearing but talk to your child about their feelings because that child is hurting real bad too. I immediately looked away . Now that I am starting the second year, I am finding it is much harder to be that strong person that everyone thinks I am. Some days are better than others. Maybe its a happy memory or a photograph. I wish I could say something that would make it better, but my faith tells me that the Lord has given you both a season in life, and that season has ended. I cant say I know how you feel for every bereavement is utterly personal, but when I mentioned to my brother that I was crying so much and surprised at myself (not being a great crier) he said Well you cant just shrug off 45 years of togetherness can you? Every day is a struggle doing better with Councellor,but I miss him sooooo much I thought getting through the first year would be the hardest but as it turns out year two is just as bad. Don fought so hard with what strength that he had but cancer took him from me. Im beyond lost. I feel like Im struggling with no sense of purpose and going no where. I have a lot of support but. Where did that year go? I still cry daily but Im told thats not how it is for everyone. Next month is a two year mark that I lossed my only child, my little girl. She was crying every day on the way to and from work. It's been 9 months since my sweet Louisa passed away. Then, I ended up getting sick from malnutrition. Thanks to you priest manuka for what he has done for me! I dread Christmas. Well, he became my rock. longing to see them again. Hes doing it for a reason to help us. I dont have any words of advicejust know that I care that youre having a hard time. Desperately, that it sometimes hurt to breathe. I did see a counselor. See more ideas about grief quotes, grieving quotes, miss you dad. Or 50 feet tall. What followed her death was aweful . Maybe someone else's grief doesn't affect you in the same way or much at all. I dont know many widows that are my age, Im 60. every day is a challenger i hate waking up in the morning, I do try to go out and see friends but it really doesnt help, Im not sure how much longer I can continue like this, it has to get a little better I can only hope. Her not being here It is definitely worse now than at the beginning, I was numb for a long time, but now i am exposed and raw, and I can cry for England. Unfortunately, Im taking anti-anxiety meds on occasion to quell the freak-outs (which I dont like doing and had NEVER done before), but I seem to need them right now. Everyone feels like Im negative, and depressing, and really I just want to see my mum. Things are familiar, but not clear, not altogether solid. But I realised life has to carry on. Ive hardened, refusing to be let hurt again. so be it . I pray daily for all who mourn the death of a loved one or pet, O my, thankyou. My husband of 37 yrs passed away July 25 2018. 3. I lost my mum 13 months ago. Three powerful life-changing words passed on from God to us: Now choose life! I just felt he was near. We have another child to care for, but It is so hard to simply function at even a basic level now. He was 53 years old, and in excellent physical condition prior to his diagnosis. I want to thank everyone that has posted above, it makes you realize that it isnt just you and the people that says you have to move on, find a purpose just flat out dont understand. Create Art. I look forward to a time when it may ease, but for now i am grateful to read others experiences. Thats for sure. We had a great marriage and we were grateful for all the years we had. I share everyones pain expressed here. . I been trying to get my life in order such as trying to find a job. So in addition to trying to process her death, I still find myself saying to myself What happened? This has to get better and I know in Its tough, 2 years ago my wife had back surgery the third morning after surgery she complained of a hard time breathing early the next day the hospital called and she passed from a blood clot. I was numb the first year, but Know Its really hard. Im not sure if people are afraid to ask me over to their house or what. YOU NEED QUALITY VISITORS FOR YOUR: griefincommon.com ?
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